When you look at an object, say a painting, it's hard to appreciate what's in the painting and everything else that goes with the painting if you're looking at it from just an inch or two away. You can't see the whole picture. But if you step back a little farther, a few feet away from it, you can have a clearer view of the painting's entirety.
Then there's comes a point in your life when you're ready for change. And there's a lot of information out there that can help you unlock your self-improvement
power. But until that time comes, something can be just right under your nose and you'd never see it. For many of us, the only time we think about improving ourselves is when the things in our life go from bad to worse.
Let's illustrate this using the "frog principle." If you dropped a frog in a pot of boiling water, that frog is going to jump off. It's because the frog can't tolerate the sudden change in environment, which in this case is the temperature of the water. If you dropped the same frog in a pot of lukewarm water and then turn the stove on, the frog isn't going to jump off until the water reaches boiling point. But until that time, the frog is just going to adjust to the slow change in temperature and won't be too keen to jump out of the pot so quickly
Most people react the same way as the frog in lukewarm water. Today, Jenny thinks John hates her. The next day, Matt approaches her and tells Jenny that he hates her. Jenny doesn't do anything; she stays the same, doing the same thing she does. She doesn't take seriously what her two friends say. Then the next day, she finds out that Amy and Carl hate her too. Jenny realizes she needs to take steps to improve herself only when most of her friends hate her.
We learn lessons and remember them the most when those lessons are preceded by pain. When things get tough or rough, that's the time our eyes finally see the warning signs. For instance, it's when you can no longer fit into your jeans that you realize you need to change your diet. When your teeth are falling off, that's the time you'll stop eating chocolates and candies. A smoker isn't going to really stop smoking until his lungs give out or he finds out he has lung cancer. And we'd only start praying and asking for help when we're at our lowest or when we feel there's no hope.
Most of us only learn to unlock our self-improvement power when our world seems to fall apart. For the most part, we don't think about changing or improving ourselves because it's just too hard to do so, and besides, we often rationalize and talk ourselves out of changing, mostly for the better. But change is inevitable, and so is pain. At some point in our life, something will happen that will prompt us to finally learn and want to unlock our self-improvement power. It isn't because someone is nagging us to change for the better, but because we realize ourselves that we need to change.
One thing you'll notice about happy people is that they don't simply accept change; they embrace change. But you see, you don't have to be the frog dropped in that pot of boiling water in order to realize that you need to improve yourself. It doesn't have to come to that. It can start with you realizing that you don't have to box yourself in. it can start with you simply accepting change, not resisting it and certainly not fearing it.
Most of us tend to program our minds like computers. We become what we think. For instance, if you repeatedly tell others and yourself that you're not a social person, that you're not good being around groups of people. Then you hear your parents, your siblings, and your friends tell the same thing to others. You believe this is the case over the years. The result? Each time people come to your house or you're in a public setting, you'd take a step back, shy away. You retreat and lock yourself up in your room. For years, you've "programmed" yourself that you're not a social person or good at being around others. You believe this story. However, you need to realize that that's not who you are.
Not many people like hearing the word "self-improvement". However, we need to realize how much learning to unlock our self-improvement power can do wonders in our lives. Many dread making changes because it's really hard, but all that's needed is to look at the process in a different light. Instead of counting the days until we're completely improved, it's much better to enjoy the journey.
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Monday, October 11, 2010
Monday, September 6, 2010
Self-Improvement and the Road to Success the right way.
Each and every thing that happens to us happens for a purpose. It is said the experience - good and bad - is the best teacher. It's the best tool to help you grow, improve yourself and become successful. So don't simply lock yourself up or keep yourself from the world because of failures, heartaches
and embarrassments. These experiences are the best and most valuable teachers you could ever have.
Remember that Robin Williams' move, Patch Adams? It's a movie with a great message, one that you can learn from if you want to improve yourself. The movie is about a medical student, Hunter "Patch" Adams, who didn't pass the medical board exams. He suffered for months; he became depressed and eventually became suicidal. He checked himself voluntarily into a psychiatric ward. There he stayed for several months and met many people - sick ones: catatonic, schizophrenic, mentally retarded.
Patch found a way to treat his ailment and in the process, he realized he needed to get himself back on track. One morning, he woke up and realized that he still wanted to become a doctor. That's when his outlook started to change. He became positive, and in the process, he improved himself and became success. Not only did he improve himself, however; he also helped improve the lives of those around him. There's no question about his success. He became one of the best doctors in this country.
Patch Adams' life is one good example of how self-improvement is synonymous with success. Here's how you can be like Patch Adams:
*If you harbor thoughts that you're a failure, stop doing that starting right now. You are not a failure. Accept yourself and others will too.
*Stop becoming envious of the hunky and sexy models you see on TV and on billboards. Beauty isn't just about great abs or long, slender legs. Instead of worrying about how you look on the outside, work on the inside first. Learn self-acceptance and then you'll be able to work on the rest.
*It is said that the best way you can help yourself is if you help other people. Help those who are down about themselves; be the wall they can lean on to. Don't be pulled down by others when you see them being down on themselves. Be the one to cheer others.
*If you make mistakes, treat those as opportunities to learn. It won't help to feel stupid, berate yourself or feel that you're doomed when you make mistakes. Think of it this way: if you don't make mistakes, how are you going to improve? Mistakes are a part of life. Accept your mistakes, learn from them and then move on.
*Learn to take things as they come, one at a time. Don't expect yourself to change or improve overnight. If you are trying to kick a bad habit, don't expect to be rid of it overnight; it just isn't possible. Change, self-improvement, involves a process.
*Be more confident about yourself and your abilities. Learn to appreciate yourself. This is the key to inner stability, personality development and being successful.
*Learn to set not just meaningful goals, but also achievable ones. Don't go out to look like Brad Pitt or Cameron Diaz; aim to become a better version of YOU, not someone else.
*For other people, the little things can mean the world. Giving someone a pat on the back, saying a simple "Hi" or "Hello" to a neighbor, or complimenting a friend can go a long way. These can be enough to cheer up a person.
*Remember that not everyone is willing to change or undergo the process of self-improvement; you may be willing, but others may not. We all have different sets of values and attitudes. Do what you have to do to better yourself; don't wait for other people to agree or do with you the things you know can help you and them. You're can only change yourself; others will have to decide for themselves.
There's no such thing as an "overnight success." Self-improvement involves a process. There's a saying, "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear." If you're ready to get on the path of self-improvement, your "teachers" will appear - they can be your parents, your friends, your school teachers, your co-workers,your neighbors, even the strangers you meet. And when you let yourself open to learning and improving yourself, you're also increasing your chances of becoming a success.
Watch this video for more information
http://LifeTransformationNow.com/?a=1361061
and embarrassments. These experiences are the best and most valuable teachers you could ever have.
Remember that Robin Williams' move, Patch Adams? It's a movie with a great message, one that you can learn from if you want to improve yourself. The movie is about a medical student, Hunter "Patch" Adams, who didn't pass the medical board exams. He suffered for months; he became depressed and eventually became suicidal. He checked himself voluntarily into a psychiatric ward. There he stayed for several months and met many people - sick ones: catatonic, schizophrenic, mentally retarded.
Patch found a way to treat his ailment and in the process, he realized he needed to get himself back on track. One morning, he woke up and realized that he still wanted to become a doctor. That's when his outlook started to change. He became positive, and in the process, he improved himself and became success. Not only did he improve himself, however; he also helped improve the lives of those around him. There's no question about his success. He became one of the best doctors in this country.
Patch Adams' life is one good example of how self-improvement is synonymous with success. Here's how you can be like Patch Adams:
*If you harbor thoughts that you're a failure, stop doing that starting right now. You are not a failure. Accept yourself and others will too.
*Stop becoming envious of the hunky and sexy models you see on TV and on billboards. Beauty isn't just about great abs or long, slender legs. Instead of worrying about how you look on the outside, work on the inside first. Learn self-acceptance and then you'll be able to work on the rest.
*It is said that the best way you can help yourself is if you help other people. Help those who are down about themselves; be the wall they can lean on to. Don't be pulled down by others when you see them being down on themselves. Be the one to cheer others.
*If you make mistakes, treat those as opportunities to learn. It won't help to feel stupid, berate yourself or feel that you're doomed when you make mistakes. Think of it this way: if you don't make mistakes, how are you going to improve? Mistakes are a part of life. Accept your mistakes, learn from them and then move on.
*Learn to take things as they come, one at a time. Don't expect yourself to change or improve overnight. If you are trying to kick a bad habit, don't expect to be rid of it overnight; it just isn't possible. Change, self-improvement, involves a process.
*Be more confident about yourself and your abilities. Learn to appreciate yourself. This is the key to inner stability, personality development and being successful.
*Learn to set not just meaningful goals, but also achievable ones. Don't go out to look like Brad Pitt or Cameron Diaz; aim to become a better version of YOU, not someone else.
*For other people, the little things can mean the world. Giving someone a pat on the back, saying a simple "Hi" or "Hello" to a neighbor, or complimenting a friend can go a long way. These can be enough to cheer up a person.
*Remember that not everyone is willing to change or undergo the process of self-improvement; you may be willing, but others may not. We all have different sets of values and attitudes. Do what you have to do to better yourself; don't wait for other people to agree or do with you the things you know can help you and them. You're can only change yourself; others will have to decide for themselves.
There's no such thing as an "overnight success." Self-improvement involves a process. There's a saying, "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear." If you're ready to get on the path of self-improvement, your "teachers" will appear - they can be your parents, your friends, your school teachers, your co-workers,your neighbors, even the strangers you meet. And when you let yourself open to learning and improving yourself, you're also increasing your chances of becoming a success.
Watch this video for more information
http://LifeTransformationNow.com/?a=1361061
Friday, August 27, 2010
Establishing Healthy Habits in Your Kids: 5 Tips
With an obese or overweight population of 66% percent of adults in the U.S., 60% in the U.K., and 59% in Canada, healthy eating is becoming more important than ever. But it's also becoming more and more rare. Parents with less-than-stellar eating habits pass those habits onto their kids, creating a vicious cycle that will follow their children right on into adulthood.
Sound a little scary? It is. Teaching your kids healthy eating habits is one of the most important things you can do for them as a parent. But while there's no miracle tip that will make the difference between healthy children and obese or overweight children, there are some things you can do to instill healthier eating habits in your kids. Read on for five simple ways to encourage a healthier diet.
1. Start the day with breakfast. Most parents and children claim that breakfast is part of their everyday routines. But for many more than you might think, it's not. Up to 40% of kids don't eat breakfast in the morning-- which is the worst possible way to start off the day. Children who eat breakfast have higher math grades, have improved reading scores, pay more attention, and basically perform better in school. They also tend to have healthier bodies in general, with better-controlled weight levels and lower cholesterol.
2. Introduce healthy snacks. What you have in your home is what your children will eat. When you take them to the grocery store with you, it's doubtless that your children will request the most sugar-filled, fat-injected products on the shelf. But these are not the ones to have in your home-- and if possible, you should avoid purchasing them at all. Instead of packaged chips, cookies, and other unhealthy snacks, be sure your kids have available to them items like:
- Cups of unsweetened applesauce (or other fruit puree)
- Whole-grain cereal mixes (like Chex Mix)
- Sliced or sectioned fruit, or whole pieces
- Low-fat yogurts or drinkable yogurt
- Granola or granola bars
- Dried, unsweetened fruits and nuts
- Low-fat cheese pieces, such as mozzarella sticks
- Vegetable sticks and dip
- 100% real fruit juice
- Water
Almost as important as providing only healthy options for snacks at home? Demanding that your child's school does the same. If unhealthy options are offered in the school's vending machines, it's too tempting for kids to partake.
3. Banish the white stuff. Yes, kids like white bread. But any kid can get used to the taste and texture of whole grains... it just takes a little practice. Starting too late to get your kids to like whole wheat bread? Look for fortified white bread, and add other whole grains into their diet, such as:
- Oatmeal
- Whole wheat pasta
- Brown rice
- Whole grain cereal
Still can't get your kids to get excited about whole wheat bread? Start toasting their sandwiches. When it's toasted, it'll be that much harder for them to tell the difference in taste and texture. As a bonus, toasted bread takes longer to chew and eat than untoasted, making meals last longer and seem more satisfying.
4. Encourage exercise. It's simple, it's true, and it's something you already know: kids who get plenty of exercise are healthier kids. Set limits on the amount of time your child may spend in front of the television or computer screen. Sign them up for plenty of sports and outdoor activities. And best of all, get involved in sports and exercise with them. Bragged on your internet dating profile about being a gold-medal swimmer in high school? Take your kids down to the pool and get them swimming, too.
5. Lead by example. This is the last tip in this article, but it's certainly not the least. One of the best things you can do to instill healthy eating habits in your kids is to have them yourself. When your children see you reaching for an apple instead of a bag of chips, their tendency will be to do the same. Involve your kids in shopping for and cooking food. This will give you the chance to teach your kids about healthy choices and why they should make them. In short, you can tell your kids every day to eat healthy foods... but if you don't do the same thing yourself, the lesson will never stick.
Please click on the link below for more info:
http://parentingpotentials.com/cb/child-brain-health/103/?hop=foslvl
Sound a little scary? It is. Teaching your kids healthy eating habits is one of the most important things you can do for them as a parent. But while there's no miracle tip that will make the difference between healthy children and obese or overweight children, there are some things you can do to instill healthier eating habits in your kids. Read on for five simple ways to encourage a healthier diet.
1. Start the day with breakfast. Most parents and children claim that breakfast is part of their everyday routines. But for many more than you might think, it's not. Up to 40% of kids don't eat breakfast in the morning-- which is the worst possible way to start off the day. Children who eat breakfast have higher math grades, have improved reading scores, pay more attention, and basically perform better in school. They also tend to have healthier bodies in general, with better-controlled weight levels and lower cholesterol.
2. Introduce healthy snacks. What you have in your home is what your children will eat. When you take them to the grocery store with you, it's doubtless that your children will request the most sugar-filled, fat-injected products on the shelf. But these are not the ones to have in your home-- and if possible, you should avoid purchasing them at all. Instead of packaged chips, cookies, and other unhealthy snacks, be sure your kids have available to them items like:
- Cups of unsweetened applesauce (or other fruit puree)
- Whole-grain cereal mixes (like Chex Mix)
- Sliced or sectioned fruit, or whole pieces
- Low-fat yogurts or drinkable yogurt
- Granola or granola bars
- Dried, unsweetened fruits and nuts
- Low-fat cheese pieces, such as mozzarella sticks
- Vegetable sticks and dip
- 100% real fruit juice
- Water
Almost as important as providing only healthy options for snacks at home? Demanding that your child's school does the same. If unhealthy options are offered in the school's vending machines, it's too tempting for kids to partake.
3. Banish the white stuff. Yes, kids like white bread. But any kid can get used to the taste and texture of whole grains... it just takes a little practice. Starting too late to get your kids to like whole wheat bread? Look for fortified white bread, and add other whole grains into their diet, such as:
- Oatmeal
- Whole wheat pasta
- Brown rice
- Whole grain cereal
Still can't get your kids to get excited about whole wheat bread? Start toasting their sandwiches. When it's toasted, it'll be that much harder for them to tell the difference in taste and texture. As a bonus, toasted bread takes longer to chew and eat than untoasted, making meals last longer and seem more satisfying.
4. Encourage exercise. It's simple, it's true, and it's something you already know: kids who get plenty of exercise are healthier kids. Set limits on the amount of time your child may spend in front of the television or computer screen. Sign them up for plenty of sports and outdoor activities. And best of all, get involved in sports and exercise with them. Bragged on your internet dating profile about being a gold-medal swimmer in high school? Take your kids down to the pool and get them swimming, too.
5. Lead by example. This is the last tip in this article, but it's certainly not the least. One of the best things you can do to instill healthy eating habits in your kids is to have them yourself. When your children see you reaching for an apple instead of a bag of chips, their tendency will be to do the same. Involve your kids in shopping for and cooking food. This will give you the chance to teach your kids about healthy choices and why they should make them. In short, you can tell your kids every day to eat healthy foods... but if you don't do the same thing yourself, the lesson will never stick.
Please click on the link below for more info:
http://parentingpotentials.com/cb/child-brain-health/103/?hop=foslvl
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
5 Minutes a Day to Connecting With Your Teenager
You drive them to school. You attend their sports games. You even have an occasional meal with them. Yet, you still feel like the relationship with your teenager is superficial at best. You want to be "the go to person" for your teenager, but are not sure how to "break into their world." There may not even be a lot of conflict between you two, but you still feel more like strangers than confidantes.
Wouldn't it be great if you could connect with your teenager? If you could begin the process of tearing down the walls and help establish some emotional trust and closeness? As a parent you cannot force your teenager to open up to you. All you can do is create a relational environment, that over time, she will know that she can come to you with her problems. A relationship which she knows she will be heard, rather than lectured. An environment where he is certain he can be encouraged rather than ridiculed. A relationship filled with dialogues of sound advice and discussion rather than parental monologues and attempts to control.
So how do you begin the process of connecting with your teenager? Here are some suggestions that will take a minimum of 5 minutes per day to enhance the rapport with your teenager
1. Become an observer
A direct key into connecting with your teenager is to find out what influences them or what captures their attention. Where do they spend most of their time? Maybe your son spends most of his time on gaming with his friends, or connecting with them on social networking sites. Perhaps your daughter finds community with her friends on her athletic team or spending time with her friends. By observing, you will gather important information about your teenager that can be a doorway to future discussion.
2. Become a learner
Once you have discovered what your teenager likes and what influences their attention, learn more about it and then begin discussing it. The best way to learn about something is to ask non-threatening questions to your teenager about what they like. Non-threatening questions acquire more information rather than demonstrate the need for justification.
For example, instead of saying "Why do you like this Facebook site?" try saying "This Facebook site is really interesting. Can you show me some more?" The former can cause your teenager to become defensive raising the need to justify what he enjoys. The latter already communicate his hobby is valid and the fact that you are interested in leaning more about it. Everyone likes to spend time talking about their interests. For teenagers, it makes them feel intelligent and mature. In addition, we all like spending time with those that share in interest in what we like. So, it is with your teenager.
3. Be an encourager
View the adolescent years as a learning process. Their judgment and critical thinking skills are developing. This is part of the developmental task they must go through. Teenagers make mistakes. Some intentional, but I believe most of them are unintentional. Just as certain that teenagers will make these blunders; parents will get frustrated during this process. Their decisions will not make any sense to you, and their mistakes can be tiresome. But, when the dust settles, teenagers need to be encouraged. They need to know that they are more valuable to you than their failures. Encouragement comes in many forms. Verbal affirmations, physical hugs, a well written note, calm demeanor and tone of voice are just a few examples that can encourage your teenager. Even more, catch your teenager doing something right and tell him.
4. Be a participator
For most teenagers, relationships are more important to them than wealth or prestige. Therefore, choose to become a participant in their world. If you know what captures their attention then find someway to participate with them, even if you do not enjoy it. Many teenagers also value social causes and many choose to participate in them. Find a local community organization that needs volunteers and invite your teenager along. Get creative and find deliberate ways to stay in touch with your teenager.
5. Be willing to get some help with your relationship
Often, parents and teenagers can get stuck in rut. Relationships sometimes need outside help to bring clarity and insight. Be willing to seek help from a qualified counselor that specializes in teenagers and parenting relationships. If you go to together, it will make your teenager feel less like the main cause of the problem.
What about you? Do you know what captures the attention of your teenager?
What observations can you make? Are you investing the time in finding out more about your teenager? What do you need to do to encourage your teenager before your head hits the pillow tonight? When is the next time you can take 5 minutes to go to Starbucks with your teenager?
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http://www.myoutofcontrolteen.com/sl.html?hop=foslvl
Wouldn't it be great if you could connect with your teenager? If you could begin the process of tearing down the walls and help establish some emotional trust and closeness? As a parent you cannot force your teenager to open up to you. All you can do is create a relational environment, that over time, she will know that she can come to you with her problems. A relationship which she knows she will be heard, rather than lectured. An environment where he is certain he can be encouraged rather than ridiculed. A relationship filled with dialogues of sound advice and discussion rather than parental monologues and attempts to control.
So how do you begin the process of connecting with your teenager? Here are some suggestions that will take a minimum of 5 minutes per day to enhance the rapport with your teenager
1. Become an observer
A direct key into connecting with your teenager is to find out what influences them or what captures their attention. Where do they spend most of their time? Maybe your son spends most of his time on gaming with his friends, or connecting with them on social networking sites. Perhaps your daughter finds community with her friends on her athletic team or spending time with her friends. By observing, you will gather important information about your teenager that can be a doorway to future discussion.
2. Become a learner
Once you have discovered what your teenager likes and what influences their attention, learn more about it and then begin discussing it. The best way to learn about something is to ask non-threatening questions to your teenager about what they like. Non-threatening questions acquire more information rather than demonstrate the need for justification.
For example, instead of saying "Why do you like this Facebook site?" try saying "This Facebook site is really interesting. Can you show me some more?" The former can cause your teenager to become defensive raising the need to justify what he enjoys. The latter already communicate his hobby is valid and the fact that you are interested in leaning more about it. Everyone likes to spend time talking about their interests. For teenagers, it makes them feel intelligent and mature. In addition, we all like spending time with those that share in interest in what we like. So, it is with your teenager.
3. Be an encourager
View the adolescent years as a learning process. Their judgment and critical thinking skills are developing. This is part of the developmental task they must go through. Teenagers make mistakes. Some intentional, but I believe most of them are unintentional. Just as certain that teenagers will make these blunders; parents will get frustrated during this process. Their decisions will not make any sense to you, and their mistakes can be tiresome. But, when the dust settles, teenagers need to be encouraged. They need to know that they are more valuable to you than their failures. Encouragement comes in many forms. Verbal affirmations, physical hugs, a well written note, calm demeanor and tone of voice are just a few examples that can encourage your teenager. Even more, catch your teenager doing something right and tell him.
4. Be a participator
For most teenagers, relationships are more important to them than wealth or prestige. Therefore, choose to become a participant in their world. If you know what captures their attention then find someway to participate with them, even if you do not enjoy it. Many teenagers also value social causes and many choose to participate in them. Find a local community organization that needs volunteers and invite your teenager along. Get creative and find deliberate ways to stay in touch with your teenager.
5. Be willing to get some help with your relationship
Often, parents and teenagers can get stuck in rut. Relationships sometimes need outside help to bring clarity and insight. Be willing to seek help from a qualified counselor that specializes in teenagers and parenting relationships. If you go to together, it will make your teenager feel less like the main cause of the problem.
What about you? Do you know what captures the attention of your teenager?
What observations can you make? Are you investing the time in finding out more about your teenager? What do you need to do to encourage your teenager before your head hits the pillow tonight? When is the next time you can take 5 minutes to go to Starbucks with your teenager?
Click Thie Link For More Information:
http://www.myoutofcontrolteen.com/sl.html?hop=foslvl
Sunday, July 11, 2010
What You Absolutely Must Know About the One You Are With! 1000 questions for couples.
How compatible are you and the person you are with? How would you know? Just because you like the same types of foods and pets does not mean that you can have a blissful, long-term relationship.
Do you know why your mate does or doesn't attend church? Do you know how they really think about the way you dress?
Have you ever asked your partner what are the three most sensitive parts on their body?
"An estimated 83% of divorces would not take place
if couples asked each other the right questions"
Several months ago, a friend of mine discovered that her husband was once a heroin addict. When she asked him why he didn't tell her before, he replied, "You never asked!"
I have put together 1,000 of the most important questions couples should ask each other. These are questions that go beyond small talk and simply making conversation like you will find in most "questions" books. You will NOT find questions like "if you were a color, what color would you be" or "what is your most embarrassing moment".
OPENED UP IN A WHOLE NEW WAY
"My girlfriend and I avoided discussing certain topics like our thoughts about sex, our religious differences and her spending habits. These 1000 questions have helped us to open up to one another in a way I didn't think was possible." – Vincent Rawley
"1000 Questions For Couples"
NOT AVAILABLE
IN BOOKSTORES
There are hundreds of fun "getting to know you" questions but there are also important questions that most people don't even think of asking but are absolutely necessary if you want to have a happy relationship.
I've known of people who never told their mate about being arrested for molesting children, that they had DUI convictions, that they were sterile or had a STD. Admittedly, those are difficult questions to ask someone. But, if you are going through a book of questions, it is much easier to bring difficult subjects out into the open.
All of these questions will help you to really know the thoughts, feelings and desires of the one you are with. After going through these questions, you will really know the things your sweetheart is passionate about. You will know how you can give them much joy and happiness. You will also discover what irritates them and makes them blue.
MORE IN LOVE NOW AFTER 17 YEARS
"My husband and I have been emailing 3-4 of the questions and our answers each day for the last month and it has had the most wonderful effect on our relationship. I felt that we had just been 'coasting' for a while but now we are more in love than we have been in our 17 years together. And the resulting passion has been amazing." – Barbara Koen
While these questions are an absolute must for couples to ask while dating, over 700 of the questions are crucial for married couples to discuss too.
Here are the topics the 1000 questions are divided into:
Personality, Feelings & Emotions
Favorites
Pets
Attractions
Health, Food & Well Being
Vacations
Morals, Convictions and Beliefs
Religion & Spiritual Matters
Car & Driver Holidays & Celebrations
Home & Home Life
Past & Future
Hobbies & Entertainment
Love, Romance & Date Nights
Friends & Family
Communication
Career and Education
Money
Relationships – Past & Present
Children & Child Rearing
Wedding & Honeymoon
Sex
If you and your partner answer these 1000 questions, I guarantee that you will know each other better than 99% of couples on the face of the earth.
Click on the this link for more information:questionsforcouples.com
Do you know why your mate does or doesn't attend church? Do you know how they really think about the way you dress?
Have you ever asked your partner what are the three most sensitive parts on their body?
"An estimated 83% of divorces would not take place
if couples asked each other the right questions"
Several months ago, a friend of mine discovered that her husband was once a heroin addict. When she asked him why he didn't tell her before, he replied, "You never asked!"
I have put together 1,000 of the most important questions couples should ask each other. These are questions that go beyond small talk and simply making conversation like you will find in most "questions" books. You will NOT find questions like "if you were a color, what color would you be" or "what is your most embarrassing moment".
OPENED UP IN A WHOLE NEW WAY
"My girlfriend and I avoided discussing certain topics like our thoughts about sex, our religious differences and her spending habits. These 1000 questions have helped us to open up to one another in a way I didn't think was possible." – Vincent Rawley
"1000 Questions For Couples"
NOT AVAILABLE
IN BOOKSTORES
There are hundreds of fun "getting to know you" questions but there are also important questions that most people don't even think of asking but are absolutely necessary if you want to have a happy relationship.
I've known of people who never told their mate about being arrested for molesting children, that they had DUI convictions, that they were sterile or had a STD. Admittedly, those are difficult questions to ask someone. But, if you are going through a book of questions, it is much easier to bring difficult subjects out into the open.
All of these questions will help you to really know the thoughts, feelings and desires of the one you are with. After going through these questions, you will really know the things your sweetheart is passionate about. You will know how you can give them much joy and happiness. You will also discover what irritates them and makes them blue.
MORE IN LOVE NOW AFTER 17 YEARS
"My husband and I have been emailing 3-4 of the questions and our answers each day for the last month and it has had the most wonderful effect on our relationship. I felt that we had just been 'coasting' for a while but now we are more in love than we have been in our 17 years together. And the resulting passion has been amazing." – Barbara Koen
While these questions are an absolute must for couples to ask while dating, over 700 of the questions are crucial for married couples to discuss too.
Here are the topics the 1000 questions are divided into:
Personality, Feelings & Emotions
Favorites
Pets
Attractions
Health, Food & Well Being
Vacations
Morals, Convictions and Beliefs
Religion & Spiritual Matters
Car & Driver Holidays & Celebrations
Home & Home Life
Past & Future
Hobbies & Entertainment
Love, Romance & Date Nights
Friends & Family
Communication
Career and Education
Money
Relationships – Past & Present
Children & Child Rearing
Wedding & Honeymoon
Sex
If you and your partner answer these 1000 questions, I guarantee that you will know each other better than 99% of couples on the face of the earth.
Click on the this link for more information:questionsforcouples.com
Thursday, July 8, 2010
Saved Your Christian Marriage
Dear Friend in Christ:
You have found this site in a search to heal your marriage. Your marriage is not where it should or could be. Perhaps it is even headed for divorce. You may be in great pain, feeling the constant agony of a crippled relationship. It may be that you see the writing on the wall, or perhaps your spouse has even said it: your marriage is headed straight into the ground! You may have given up all hope. Maybe you are terrified, but still hopeful.
I am here to tell you that it can change. In fact, I am here to tell you that your marriage can not only be restored, but can actually become the marriage of your dreams! You really are married to your soul-mate!
If You Don’t Act Now, You’ll Regret It Later!
It’s just too easy to do nothing. And then another day, week, month, then year passes with only worsening issues. Or a letter from an attorney arrives!
Let’s face it: we live in a culture that constantly calls us away from our marriage. In fact, we live in a society that not only approves of divorce, it makes it easy to get.
But together, you and I can work to change that, saving one marriage at a time, starting with yours! Actually, it will be you, me, and God making that change possible.
Did you know that the rate of divorce among Christians is actually HIGHER than the general population? I can’t begin to tell you how surprised I was to hear this! We are a people called to be faithful, to be forgiving, to be loving. . . and we end marriages more often than the general public. That trend must stop! Let’s agree to change this fact, you and I working together to renew your marriage.
Divorce and broken marriages is not God’s plan. God’s plan was for marriage to be a lifetime. As I’m sure you have heard often, in Genesis 2:24, God tells us that “for this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united with his wife. And the two people will become one body.” When we become one body, it is a forever thing.
Where is your relationship? Is it where you want it to be? Is it where your spouse wants it to be? Is it where God wants it to be?
What Are Your Options?
You see, you really have only three choices:
You can live with things the way they are. . . Suffer
You can just get out of the whole thing. . . Divorce
You can change the marriage for the better.
OK, I have my prejudices. Obviously, 1) isn’t working. You have already decided against that, the proof being that you found your way to this website! And 2) isn’t much of an option for those of us who believe God’s Word. So, the best answer is 3), accomplished of course, with God’s help.
If you are like most people, you have tried to make changes, tried to figure things out, and maybe even saw a little improvement here and there. But things just seem to either drift back to the way they were or get worse!
Do You Make These Mistakes?
Do you find yourself:
Arguing with your spouse to try to get them to see your point, while they argue back to get you to see their point? (Neither of you will win.)
Ignoring the situation, hoping time will heal? (It will only make it worse.)
Trying to manipulate your spouse into going your way? (You become dishonest.)
Reading books on male/female differences, new sex techniques, communication skills, or self-esteem? (They have no long-term effectiveness.)
Praying to God, hoping for an answer? (Good start, and there is an answer!)
The Christian’s Way To Save Your Marriage
Let’s face it: marriage is a challenge! There is no way around that. But it is a challenge with enormous payoffs in the end. That is God’s plan. Marriages teach us to be better Christians, if we allow it.
Unfortunately, too many times, we take the easy way out. That has been my frustration for many years. I have seen couple after couple end their marriage for the wrong reason.
This led me on a journey to discover what marriage was about, from a Biblical perspective, and how to use a person’s Christian faith to bring the marriage back together.
My first discovery was that modern psychology was exacerbating the problem! While attempting to help, psychology was doing great harm to marriages. In fact, the statistics were appalling. Did you know that less than 50% of marriages that go to therapy stay together? And only 10-20% of people in marital therapy report any improvement.
Imagine that: you go to a doctor, and he tells you that you need surgery. But you have less than a 50/50 chance of survival. And if you do survive, only a 10 to 20% chance of improving. Who in their right mind would go through with surgery? Yet many, many couples end up in therapy each year. And when therapy doesn’t help, they decide that the marriage must really be over.
I knew there had to be better answers. . . and there were, right there in my Christian beliefs. I just had to take those beliefs, use them in real practice, and create a practical approach that is founded in faith.
For over 17 years, I have worked to discover, practice, and perfect this approach. Now, I am ready to offer this to you!
God has given us the tools we need to build strong marriages, to become “One Flesh.” But it takes study, discernment, and practice to bring this approach to fruition. You can take your beliefs, faith, and relationship to God to build your relationship. I will show you how
Click On This Link For More Information:Saved Your christian marriage
You have found this site in a search to heal your marriage. Your marriage is not where it should or could be. Perhaps it is even headed for divorce. You may be in great pain, feeling the constant agony of a crippled relationship. It may be that you see the writing on the wall, or perhaps your spouse has even said it: your marriage is headed straight into the ground! You may have given up all hope. Maybe you are terrified, but still hopeful.
I am here to tell you that it can change. In fact, I am here to tell you that your marriage can not only be restored, but can actually become the marriage of your dreams! You really are married to your soul-mate!
If You Don’t Act Now, You’ll Regret It Later!
It’s just too easy to do nothing. And then another day, week, month, then year passes with only worsening issues. Or a letter from an attorney arrives!
Let’s face it: we live in a culture that constantly calls us away from our marriage. In fact, we live in a society that not only approves of divorce, it makes it easy to get.
But together, you and I can work to change that, saving one marriage at a time, starting with yours! Actually, it will be you, me, and God making that change possible.
Did you know that the rate of divorce among Christians is actually HIGHER than the general population? I can’t begin to tell you how surprised I was to hear this! We are a people called to be faithful, to be forgiving, to be loving. . . and we end marriages more often than the general public. That trend must stop! Let’s agree to change this fact, you and I working together to renew your marriage.
Divorce and broken marriages is not God’s plan. God’s plan was for marriage to be a lifetime. As I’m sure you have heard often, in Genesis 2:24, God tells us that “for this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united with his wife. And the two people will become one body.” When we become one body, it is a forever thing.
Where is your relationship? Is it where you want it to be? Is it where your spouse wants it to be? Is it where God wants it to be?
What Are Your Options?
You see, you really have only three choices:
You can live with things the way they are. . . Suffer
You can just get out of the whole thing. . . Divorce
You can change the marriage for the better.
OK, I have my prejudices. Obviously, 1) isn’t working. You have already decided against that, the proof being that you found your way to this website! And 2) isn’t much of an option for those of us who believe God’s Word. So, the best answer is 3), accomplished of course, with God’s help.
If you are like most people, you have tried to make changes, tried to figure things out, and maybe even saw a little improvement here and there. But things just seem to either drift back to the way they were or get worse!
Do You Make These Mistakes?
Do you find yourself:
Arguing with your spouse to try to get them to see your point, while they argue back to get you to see their point? (Neither of you will win.)
Ignoring the situation, hoping time will heal? (It will only make it worse.)
Trying to manipulate your spouse into going your way? (You become dishonest.)
Reading books on male/female differences, new sex techniques, communication skills, or self-esteem? (They have no long-term effectiveness.)
Praying to God, hoping for an answer? (Good start, and there is an answer!)
The Christian’s Way To Save Your Marriage
Let’s face it: marriage is a challenge! There is no way around that. But it is a challenge with enormous payoffs in the end. That is God’s plan. Marriages teach us to be better Christians, if we allow it.
Unfortunately, too many times, we take the easy way out. That has been my frustration for many years. I have seen couple after couple end their marriage for the wrong reason.
This led me on a journey to discover what marriage was about, from a Biblical perspective, and how to use a person’s Christian faith to bring the marriage back together.
My first discovery was that modern psychology was exacerbating the problem! While attempting to help, psychology was doing great harm to marriages. In fact, the statistics were appalling. Did you know that less than 50% of marriages that go to therapy stay together? And only 10-20% of people in marital therapy report any improvement.
Imagine that: you go to a doctor, and he tells you that you need surgery. But you have less than a 50/50 chance of survival. And if you do survive, only a 10 to 20% chance of improving. Who in their right mind would go through with surgery? Yet many, many couples end up in therapy each year. And when therapy doesn’t help, they decide that the marriage must really be over.
I knew there had to be better answers. . . and there were, right there in my Christian beliefs. I just had to take those beliefs, use them in real practice, and create a practical approach that is founded in faith.
For over 17 years, I have worked to discover, practice, and perfect this approach. Now, I am ready to offer this to you!
God has given us the tools we need to build strong marriages, to become “One Flesh.” But it takes study, discernment, and practice to bring this approach to fruition. You can take your beliefs, faith, and relationship to God to build your relationship. I will show you how
Click On This Link For More Information:Saved Your christian marriage
You "CAN" Mend Your Marriage and Make It Better Than Before
Have you ever:
Wished you knew what went wrong?
Hoped a miracle would turn things around?
Searched for a solution but found nothing?
Sensed there was something just beyond your reach?
Longed to get back to having fun and being playful with your mate?
Miss the feelings of being "in love?"
Feared you're headed for a divorce?
Do you feel helpless as you watch your marriage slowly deteriorate?
What if there was a way to ever-so-gently bring back those feelings of love that you thought were gone forever?
Kara Oh
The Heart Whisperer™
Relationship Expert
Best Selling Author & National Speaker
I'm here to give you the tools you need so you can actually fix your marriage AND make it better than it has ever been.
If you still have hope, even a tiny bit, that there has to be a way to transform your marriage, I will show you how to breath new life into your sagging marriage.
In 30 days or less, as you incorporate my techniques into how you and your spouse interact with each other, you really can, once again, have a happy, successful, lifelong love affair...and it's surprisingly easy to make my tried-and-true system work it's magic.
For many years I've studied what makes a relationship not only last, but thrive and grow stronger.
I've written books, taught workshops and seminars on the subject and what I've discovered is you really can transform your relationship and awaken the love and passion you once felt, even if it's been stale for a very long time.
It really is possible to transform your relationship into one that is filled with ever-deepening love, intimacy, playfulness, passion and hand-holding with your lover and best friend. You're about to discover exercises and techniques that will show you how easy it will be to make that happen.
Where Did You Learn To Create A Great Marriage?
I'm Kara Oh and, if you're like me and most everyone else, you got absolutely no training for one of the most important parts of life, your marriage. For the past 15 years I've been studying what makes men and women respond to each other they way they do.
Finally, I'm ready to introduce to you a system you and your partner can use that will utterly transform your marriage. And the best part is that it's easy to do, even if you're not feeling "in love" right now.
Especially if you're not feeling in love right now.
The Heart Whisperer™
So much of what we do when we get married is learned from our parents, from hit-and-miss guessing, from what our partner brings with them, and a lot of avoidance of pain learned from past relationships.
•What if you could effortlessly bring more sparkle and joy to your relationship?
•What if you could become playful again?
•What if you could fire up the passion like you once enjoyed?
•What if your level of intimacy could deepen into places you'd given up on long ago?
•What if the same things that now trigger arguments, hurt feelings, and resentments, could be turned into pathways into each other's hearts so you could love each other in profound new ways?
•What if you could create a relationship that is filled with more love than either of you ever dreamed possible; more than you've ever enjoyed before?
•What if your communication improved so dramatically that you found yourselves enjoying long conversations, fascinated with each other, like when you first met?
If You've Considered Marriage Counseling...Wait!
Before you spend the money on expensive therapy you will want to try my techniques first. Marriage Made Easy gives you step-by-step ways to create a new level of intimacy and love and the bond between you will become stronger than it has been in years.
When you begin to put into practice the easy to follow steps you will find your intimacy deepening, your bond strengthening, and the fear of divorce fading away, being replaced with a sense of peace because you will know that you have put into motion something that can never be lost.
I've used the steps in Marriage Makeover Manual in my own relationship so I know they work. If I can create an amazing, off-the-charts relationship, certainly you can too.
Like me and thousands of others, you’ll be changing your relationship forever.
You may not believe it's possible to start having fun again. But you can once you start incorporating into your marriage, the techniques and strategies I'll teach you.
One day soon, you'll start smiling and giggling simply because you’re so happy. And you'll smile when you see that spring in your partner's step. The spring of someone in love.
Are You Willing To Try Something New?
When you were first falling in love you were both probably very attentive, doing and saying enough to cause each other to swoon with delight. But when the fireworks died down, which they inevitably do, what's left is probably a lot less romance than you would like.
An important thing you'll learn is how differently men and women express and experience love. This new awareness, and the suggestions for how to make real and lasting changes, will cause you to bring the best out in each other.
You'll see each other with new eyes and be inspired to try the new ways to express your love that I suggest.
You Can Start Having Fun Together Again
Remember when you two were first together? You laughed with each other, you played, you planned activities and looked forward to being together.
Yes, the romance was there and certainly the sexy stuff got your attention, but the thing that made you realize that he was "the one" was that you had fun together.
You truly enjoyed each other's company and it didn't really matter what you did.
You can bring back the fun and playfulness that you enjoyed when you were falling in love.
Click On This Link For More Information:Marriage Made Easy
Wished you knew what went wrong?
Hoped a miracle would turn things around?
Searched for a solution but found nothing?
Sensed there was something just beyond your reach?
Longed to get back to having fun and being playful with your mate?
Miss the feelings of being "in love?"
Feared you're headed for a divorce?
Do you feel helpless as you watch your marriage slowly deteriorate?
What if there was a way to ever-so-gently bring back those feelings of love that you thought were gone forever?
Kara Oh
The Heart Whisperer™
Relationship Expert
Best Selling Author & National Speaker
I'm here to give you the tools you need so you can actually fix your marriage AND make it better than it has ever been.
If you still have hope, even a tiny bit, that there has to be a way to transform your marriage, I will show you how to breath new life into your sagging marriage.
In 30 days or less, as you incorporate my techniques into how you and your spouse interact with each other, you really can, once again, have a happy, successful, lifelong love affair...and it's surprisingly easy to make my tried-and-true system work it's magic.
For many years I've studied what makes a relationship not only last, but thrive and grow stronger.
I've written books, taught workshops and seminars on the subject and what I've discovered is you really can transform your relationship and awaken the love and passion you once felt, even if it's been stale for a very long time.
It really is possible to transform your relationship into one that is filled with ever-deepening love, intimacy, playfulness, passion and hand-holding with your lover and best friend. You're about to discover exercises and techniques that will show you how easy it will be to make that happen.
Where Did You Learn To Create A Great Marriage?
I'm Kara Oh and, if you're like me and most everyone else, you got absolutely no training for one of the most important parts of life, your marriage. For the past 15 years I've been studying what makes men and women respond to each other they way they do.
Finally, I'm ready to introduce to you a system you and your partner can use that will utterly transform your marriage. And the best part is that it's easy to do, even if you're not feeling "in love" right now.
Especially if you're not feeling in love right now.
The Heart Whisperer™
So much of what we do when we get married is learned from our parents, from hit-and-miss guessing, from what our partner brings with them, and a lot of avoidance of pain learned from past relationships.
•What if you could effortlessly bring more sparkle and joy to your relationship?
•What if you could become playful again?
•What if you could fire up the passion like you once enjoyed?
•What if your level of intimacy could deepen into places you'd given up on long ago?
•What if the same things that now trigger arguments, hurt feelings, and resentments, could be turned into pathways into each other's hearts so you could love each other in profound new ways?
•What if you could create a relationship that is filled with more love than either of you ever dreamed possible; more than you've ever enjoyed before?
•What if your communication improved so dramatically that you found yourselves enjoying long conversations, fascinated with each other, like when you first met?
If You've Considered Marriage Counseling...Wait!
Before you spend the money on expensive therapy you will want to try my techniques first. Marriage Made Easy gives you step-by-step ways to create a new level of intimacy and love and the bond between you will become stronger than it has been in years.
When you begin to put into practice the easy to follow steps you will find your intimacy deepening, your bond strengthening, and the fear of divorce fading away, being replaced with a sense of peace because you will know that you have put into motion something that can never be lost.
I've used the steps in Marriage Makeover Manual in my own relationship so I know they work. If I can create an amazing, off-the-charts relationship, certainly you can too.
Like me and thousands of others, you’ll be changing your relationship forever.
You may not believe it's possible to start having fun again. But you can once you start incorporating into your marriage, the techniques and strategies I'll teach you.
One day soon, you'll start smiling and giggling simply because you’re so happy. And you'll smile when you see that spring in your partner's step. The spring of someone in love.
Are You Willing To Try Something New?
When you were first falling in love you were both probably very attentive, doing and saying enough to cause each other to swoon with delight. But when the fireworks died down, which they inevitably do, what's left is probably a lot less romance than you would like.
An important thing you'll learn is how differently men and women express and experience love. This new awareness, and the suggestions for how to make real and lasting changes, will cause you to bring the best out in each other.
You'll see each other with new eyes and be inspired to try the new ways to express your love that I suggest.
You Can Start Having Fun Together Again
Remember when you two were first together? You laughed with each other, you played, you planned activities and looked forward to being together.
Yes, the romance was there and certainly the sexy stuff got your attention, but the thing that made you realize that he was "the one" was that you had fun together.
You truly enjoyed each other's company and it didn't really matter what you did.
You can bring back the fun and playfulness that you enjoyed when you were falling in love.
Click On This Link For More Information:Marriage Made Easy
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